01 september 2006
07 september 2006
When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so regretfully upon the closed door that we don't see the one that has opened for us.
- Alexander Graham Bell
13 september 2006
Maybe God wants us to meet a
few wrong people before meeting
the right one so that when we finally
meet the right person, we will know
how to be grateful for that gift.
When the door of happiness closes,
another opens, but often times we look
so long at the closed door that we don't
see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you
can sit on a porch and swing with,
never say a word, and then walk away
feeling like it was the best
conversation you've every had.
It's true that we don't know what we've
got until we lose it, but it's also true
that we don't know what we've been
missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an
assurance that they'll love you back!
Don't expect love in return; just wait
for it to grow in their heart
but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone,
but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Don't go for looks; they can deceive.
Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile because it
takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile.
There are moments in life when you miss someone
so much that you just want to pick them from
your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where
you want to go; be what you want to be,
because you have only one life and one
chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow
to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes.
If you feel that it hurts you,
it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything that
comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry,
those who hurt, those who have searched,
and those who have tried, for only they can
appreciate the importance of people who have
touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based
on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in
life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and
everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and
everyone around you is crying.
16 september 2006
If you're not married yet, share it with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples... and reflect on it. An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low-self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?
Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in relationship.
What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each others family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods.
Remember, for richer or for poorer.
17 september 2006
Blessed be by your presence in this room.
21 september 2006
Dialogue with a Tibak
I understood your cause.
22 september 2006
On Another Journey
Now, it is my journey with my camera understanding humanity's
interaction with itself.
24 september 2006
Let the colours show how humanity is.